Thursday, November 7, 2013
If I Only Knew Then...: A Letter to Myself, Part 1
Yesterday, I received a surprise in my e-mail box, a letter that I had written to myself a year ago. The note, which was sent through FutureMe, reminded me of the importance of setting goals, but also how the best laid plans are subject to change based upon things that are out of your control, and sometimes things you can control, but don't. I will share more about that message at a later date, but it got me thinking; not only about my future, but also from whence I came.
You may or may not be familiar with the concept of writing to letters to yourself: either person that you were or the person that you hope to become. Many of us keep journals or diaries, which is cathartic in and of itself, but writing a letter to your younger self helps you to acknowledge the wisdom that you have gained over the years, and forgive yourself for the mistakes of the past. With that knowledge, you are free to move forward and speak power to your future self. I have shared my letter below, I encourage you to create your own.
Dear 12-Year-Old Marcie,
First of all, I want you to know that you are a perfect representation of who and what God created you to be. I know that there are times when you don't feel like you are all that important, especially when others tease you about being tall, wearing glasses, or being more interested in books than sports or boys. In a few years, the things that seem to haunt you now will become your best assets, if you handle them correctly.
You are naturally creative, so don't lose sight of that creativity as you begin to figure out what you want to do when you grow up. It is easy to choose the path of least resistance by selecting a career journey that you believe will provide financial success, but that doesn't mean that it will bring you happiness, nor will it always bring you the money that you expect to earn. Anything worth having is worth working hard for, so don't be afraid to do the work. You can pursue your passion at any age, but it's better to do it when you don't have a lot of obligations, financial or otherwise. When you do the right things for the right reasons and are willing to help others, you will be richly rewarded in every area of your life.
As for the boys, don't worry about the ones who don't like you right now, because the day will come when they will. Be careful to choose wisely and never give too much of yourself away to others who haven't made the commitment to being a part of your life for the long haul. Your friends may be out there looking for love in all of the wrong faces and places, but you need to wait for love to find you. Just keep working on being your best self and the perfect guy for you will come along. It may take a while for it to happen, but it will be better than you ever could have imagined it could be when it does. (And if for some reason he doesn't come, you will have built an awesome life for yourself as a single woman.)
In the next year, your life is going to change dramatically when your parents decide to get a divorce. You will be separated from everything that has brought you comfort in the first years of your life, but please know that your folks and your extended family love you. Because your parents got married at a relatively young age, both your mom and your dad will go through several changes as they figure out who they are. There are times that you may feel lonely, but know that you are never alone and that they will always love you.
Last, but not least, it's okay to put yourself first from time to time. Though it is honorable to give, never give so much that you lose yourself in the process. When you take care of yourself, that makes you self-aware, not selfish.
Life is going to take you through a lot of ups and downs, but eventually things will all come together and you will be able to live the life of your dreams. In the meantime, never forget who you are and never settle for anything less than you deserve as a beautiful child of God.
I Love You,
If you would like to share excerpts from your own letter to your younger self, please leave a comment. Tune in later as I look towards the future.